As human beings, we understand the use of our hearts and mind when it comes to judgment. We know that both of these things must get along to create a better decision. But apparently, that process only gets used by a few people that can handle their emotional and mental capability well enough to make better reasoning. Because most of us, we often favor one more than the other. That is the reason why in this world, there is the stress over what is right and wrong.
The Inability To Control Things
Nobody can control things, and that is a mere fact we can all agree. However, we are created to think and work differently. Therefore, chances are, there are those people who can make and do things better than us.
“…they hold other people responsible for their emotional pain. They may also take the opposite track and instead blame themselves for every problem — even those clearly outside their own control,” says John M. Grohol, Psy.D.
Given that state, our inability to control things becomes an issue. We tend to feel overwhelmed by others capability enough for us to question ours. We get so depressed of thinking about what the things we are doing wrong that others don’t for them to be able to be on top of us are. Some will identify the feeling as jealousy, but it is entirely more on negative self-judgment. “Anxiety can produce a lot of negative chatter,” says Margarita Tartakovsky, MS.
The Eagerness For Reciprocality
Admit it. We strongly believe that what we do for others should get reciprocated. There is this sense of wanting others to give back what we offered them. And when they do not retaliate, we make a clear judgment that these people are unworthy. But is that their fault? Well, things become too depressing when we think about it because, at some point, we are the ones to blame for that. We give too much because we want it back. We offer ourselves to those people because we assume they are going to offer themselves in return. There is this eagerness of reciprocality that, in reality, hardly ever happens.
The Demand For Everything Good
Funny how most of us want better things in life but are not entirely willing to make an effort. We often find ourselves complaining about stuff that we can never have. We get too indulged in thinking things should have been better if done in different ways. As humans, we want everything easy, convenient, and better. However, the problem is, we are all ignorant to change. We get depressed over something that we demand so much, but we are not that eager to achieve it. With that, we sour-grape because it is the best excuse we can have. As we can see, we bother our emotional and mental strength by altering what we think is correct and incorrect.
Honestly, it is not that complicated to understand human nature. When it comes to a psychological basis, we are all on the same path at some point. We share the same sentiments towards what people should and should not have. However, there are boundaries when it comes to our needs and wants. With that, things become stressful and depressing because our emotional and mental capacity is limited only to what we know is right and wrong. “When your conscience tells you that you have done something wrong, it is important to face it, make amends and learn from your mistake,” says Maud Purcell, LCSW.