It is okay to feel sad from time to time, and it honestly helps people to understand the emotional distinction. However, too much sadness consumes them. Grieving people become more susceptible to numbness, though they are doing fun activities with friends and family. The presence of sorrow eventually grows into anxiety and depression.
Remembering the loss of someone still makes people feel bad about it. Nobody can expect someone to stop grieving in an instant. It may take a person a couple of months or years before he can finally move on. No one can tell. However, one thing is for sure. The significant difficulty of coping leads to mental and psychological dysfunctions.
What Is Grief?
Grief is something we acknowledge as the consequence for attachment and love. It signifies the connection we have with someone we care about. We feel it when we get rejected, ignored, and left out. It gives us a temporary heartbreak or at least a battle with anxiety and depression. However, the ultimate loss, which is death, brings us to the bottom of different emotional turmoil. The idea of not seeing that specific person again and not be able to talk to him or her for the rest of our lives can put us in a severely prolonged sadness. Grief is normal, and we have to deal with it. However, the process of bereavement is inconsistent. Sometimes, it gives us restless nights of sleep, it makes us tired and overdriven, and both lead to physical, emotional, and mental difficulty of concentration.
The Denial Stage
The denial stage is the first step of grieving. It’s an underrated procedure that people think of it as something not worthy enough to get attention. However, what they don’t know is that it’s the worst part of grieving. It is where our body has more feelings to process in one particular moment. According to David B. Feldman Ph.D., “The brain naturally gives us “denial breaks.” These breaks allow us to relax, regroup, and ready ourselves for the difficult feelings we must inevitably face.”
Since nobody can handle different emotions in a short amount of time, it is the deciding stage where we choose to manipulate ourselves. Emotions shuffle, and we get shocked, numb, and distracted. The information about a loved one’s loss can be too much to handle and might turn out to be a breaking point of our mental state.
Grief And Depression
The distinguishing features of grief from the persistent complex bereavement (clinical depression) are hard to identify. Evidently, both of them involve the feeling of sadness. However, there are red flags to it. There are no particular time frames as to when we should and should not grieve, so having a complete breakdown in functioning is a sign of unhealthy outcome. Though it seems to be a reasonable guide to be emotionally unstable when a person we love passes away, the idea of suicide, persistent thoughts of worthlessness, and being out of touch with reality becomes a turning point. Jodi Clarke, MA, LPC says that “dealing with depression after the loss of a loved one can be extremely isolating.”
Each of us suffers from bereavement or grief. When we lose someone, we create a unique characteristic that both help and damage our mental and emotional balance. We use it to either keep us sanely present in reality or takes us away from the harsh environment. Along with our unhealthy habits, we find ourselves continually doing things without thinking about it. Will Meek Ph.D. explains that “grief is a highly individualized process, there is not a specific set of practices that will help everyone.”