Anxious Parents Equals Anxious Kids? No Way!

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When a child sees her parent in an anxious state, it can produce a tremendous impact on her. Children depend on their parents for what to do in scary, sad, or uncomfortable circumstances. So if you are going through a tough time and you are unusually anxious consistently, your child will know that there are a lot of situations to be worried about. Psychologists believe that anxious parents pass their anxiety to their children probably because they have learned it, or you can blame their genetic makeup.

It’s depressing for us parents to think that no matter how much we want to protect our kids, we don’t notice that we are the reason for the stress that they might be in. But I’ve learned that we must not feel guilty about it. Anxiety is not something that we feel intentionally, and it’s not that easy to turn off as well. Having said that, transmitting anxiety from you to your child is not uncommon. So the best thing that we should do first and foremost is to find ways to prevent this as much as possible. We must manage our anxieties as much as we can so we can help our children learn to manage their own anxieties as well.

Practice Stress Coping Strategies

It would be hard to convey calmness to your kid when you, yourself, are finding it hard to manage the turmoil in your life. Seeking help from a mental health expert is one of the best moves to make. This professional can walk you through some effective anxiety coping methods that are customized to produce positive outcomes. As you gradually learn these methods, you can then teach your child – who is obviously taking signs from your behavior – how to manage anxious or fearful situations.

Practice What You Teach

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When you’ve come to learn some techniques by heart, you can practice them and at the same time, sharing them with your child when she is feeling sad or nervous. For instance, if you’re doing some breathing or relaxation techniques while you’re stressed working on a deadline, let your child sit with you and ask her to do the exercises with you. Also, when you’re on the verge of having an anxiety or panic attack, try to maintain your composure in front of her while trying your best to manage your attack. You have to model patience and tolerance to your child. Be mindful of your facial expressions, your emotions, and the words that you speak out of your mouth. Children are great mind readers, especially since they’re very much connected emotionally to their parents.

Explain What, Why, And How

Though you have to generally protect your child from anxious outbursts, there can be times when it’s okay – and healthy – for her to witness how you well you manage your stress and anxiety once in a while. However, you’ll have to be ready with a sensible explanation. Tell her what just happened, why it happened, and how it happened.

When you shouted to the driver beside you earlier this morning, you might want to explain to your child what that was all about. Tell her that you were running late and the driver almost hit you, causing you to panic. That was panic working on you, which is why you flared up and shouted. However, you calmly closed your eyes and took a few breaths, and eventually, things mellowed down. Let her know that it was something out of temper, and the next thing you did was another way of expressing that outburst.

Keep Away From Inevitable Situations

If there are things or circumstances that cause you excessive stress, stress that you know you can’t manage, for the time being, perhaps you might want to avoid these situations so you can spare your child from unwanted anxiety herself. For example, if you’re not too eager to drop your child off to school because you get scared, paranoid, and nervous, then ask help from a neighbor or a co-parent to do it for you. Don’t let your child see the tightening of your jaw every time she gets out of that car, as she might think there’s something scary about getting dropped off to school.

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Conclusion

On the whole, when you’re feeling anxious and your child is with you, try to take a moment. Remember the anxiety coping skills that you learned. Carry them with you at all times because you’ll surely be able to make use of them. Go on a walk, drink a cup of coffee, or get some fresh air. Tell yourself – and your child – that every anxious moment will come to pass, and things will be all right – because they will.

 

 

 

 

Signs You Might Have Depression

For most people, depression is not that obvious or easy to spot.  That’s perhaps because every individual differs in every situation. However, in a lot of circumstances, it contains ranging mood swings and intense feeling of hopelessness. Depression can also vary from mild to severe cases depending on the factors affecting it. But whatever reasons there may be, still, it has the habit of crawling up and destroying people’s functions in an everyday routine. It is the main reason why a lot of people often struggle with mental condition silently. So with that, we present a therapist’s top signs that can determine if a person is struggling with depression. Continue reading →

Turn Your Anxiety Into A Mental Health Weapon

You probably heard a lot of experts that say fear or anxiety is not real and it is only a thing that goes into your mind. That’s not true. It is real, and it can have a lot of manifestation in your life. It affects your work, social connection, relationships, and daily duties. When you are afraid, it robs you all the experiences that you want to have in your life. It limits your capacity to do the things you are supposed to do and lets you become incapable of handling even personal issues. There is no room for expressing ideas when you are full of anxiety. Yes, managing the mental condition is tough, but it doesn’t have to be like that. You can always find ways to do something about it. In this article, I’m going to help you fight fear and anxiety.

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Anxiety On The Move

Anxiety is a mental condition that can control some of the physical states of your body. It is somehow the same as having excitement. It becomes normal to feel your heart race, you tend to sweat, there’s tightening in your chest, and sometimes you feel a pit in your stomach. That’s because it is how the body reacts to the psychological condition. It goes into a hyper-aware state because it feels different every time there’s an excitement. Its only difference with anxiety is the effects it gives to the brain. Therefore, the critical thing about understanding anxiety is to know how it can work positively.

You may hear a friend or someone you know may tell you to feel the fear and do what you got to do anyway. Maybe they all encourage you to calm down when you have a panic attack. You might also read some article that tells you to focus on your positive thoughts. With all that good advice, you know deep down inside that it will not work. And when you try to ignore your fear and anxiety, you know it will only get worse. So what do you have to do?

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The Transition

Your brain is so compelling that it can affect all the functions of your body. With that, you need to anchor yourself and reframe what you’re mind is doing and change how your brain reacts to things. For example, when you are feeling afraid of something, tell yourself that you are excited. That instead of having panic attacks and extreme fear, you need to condition the brain to acknowledge the physiological signs as the opposite of the mental condition. Yes, the process of transitioning from negative to positive is not that simple. But when you continuously repeat the thought, it sends a message to the brain that eventually turns it into a fixed idea.

Let’s say you want to do something different in your life. You know thinking about doing it makes you feel nervous. Therefore, before you do it, you need to come up with an anchor thought that could help you focus. You need to come up with the idea that will not engage in any escalation to a situation that supports anxiety and panic attacks. Better yet avoid screwing things up with your “what ifs,” Anchor your thoughts in a different direction so you can maintain the control over the stuff in your head and respond to its consequences positively. It is essential to understand that when you are creating an anchor-thought, you need to pick up something that supports your mental, emotional, and behavioral state.

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The Art Of Conditioning The Mind

The success of mental conditioning is fantastic. The process does not only remove you away from fear and anxiety, but it also opens a positive disposition. You can have instant access to happiness and satisfaction whenever you want. The art of picturing something good in your head provides significant benefits in all areas of your development such as emotional, mental, behavioral, and even spiritual. So whenever you feel like you are about to struggle with negative thoughts, always condition your mind to look for the good in it. Take your time to reduce fear and anxiety in your system and practice the right mind conditioning process.

Teenage Depression

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During the time that teenagers undergo puberty, they experience a lot of things and pressures like trying to fit in, finding their identity, accepting their sexuality, treading on love, and more. With their hormones all in chaos, thanks to biology, it’s difficult to know whether they’re depressed or not. However, your support and love as their family can significantly help your teen in this fragile state.

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The Psychology Behind The Depression In Billionaires

 

In a famous place called Silicon Valley, a number of millionaires and billionaires were created through the lucrative Internet business. This was in the 1990s.

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Recently, those businessmen and entrepreneurs who were used to working 80 hours round the clock just to earn the big bucks are no longer living like this. From the several years of overtime and under-sleep, then comes years of oversleep and under-time.

As for the millionaires, they yearn for a life of comfort, financial freedom, and the power to pursue new endeavors. For the crazy rich billionaires, lavish parties and new Ferraris could not exhaust the bills in the vaults. A certified billionaire said this about people like himself: “You realize that you can’t possibly grow over the years even if you spend lavishly.”

There are crazy rich people who could spend so much every day but will never run out of the money for a thousand years – even more! These are what Bill Simmons refers to as ‘pajama rich,’ meaning they are filthy rich that they could eat or sleep in a luxurious hotel in their pajamas! And yet, several of them are struck with depression. That sounds totally strange.

 

The Billionaire Becomes The Victim

 

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Seasoned financial planners agree that when someone gets so rich at a not-so-slow pace, he feels like he’s always in motion one time, working to earn a lot of cash, and then he gets stuck the next moment. He finds himself in that place – stuck and nowhere to go. Life doesn’t move forward for him.

This whirlwind situation that some billionaires experience makes them feel confused, helpless, and lost. This is when they become victims of depression.

According to wealth coach Susan Bradley, “They had this momentum building up for some time, and then it’s suddenly over, and the champagne is gone. They feel that they’re dropping into the abyss. It is paralyzing for them. It actually affects their cognitive function.”

These kinds of circumstances are usually seen in people who got filthy rich quick, like those who won the lottery or acquired a big inheritance. They spend and party and feel so overwhelmed at the moment. They feel that there is nothing more that can make them unhappy. But once the moment stops, a majority of this group realizes that their money has become the result of more of their problems.

 

Astronauts And Billionaires

Incidentally, this is the reason why people are happier when they are working continuously than watching TV in their house waiting for money to come in – like some of the billionaires.

Super popular personalities also experience this depression. Buzz Aldrin, the second man to land on the moon, became an alcoholic after his historic success. He got very depressed and failed three marriages. As with billionaires, he got stuck after a great moment of his life and he didn’t move forward.

 

How Does The Billionaire Or The Astronaut Avoid Depression? 

The cofounders of Money, Meaning, and Choices Institute suggest that successful people, even if they don’t need to move to earn, have to achieve small wins and successes. Those who don’t need money should help their employees maintain their businesses. They may want to create new businesses, venture into new endeavors.

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They don’t really have to do something huge to be happy or avoid getting depressed. They just need to be always on the move.

 

The Depressing Truth About Grief

It is okay to feel sad from time to time, and it honestly helps people to understand the emotional distinction. However, too much sadness consumes them. Grieving people become more susceptible to numbness, though they are doing fun activities with friends and family. The presence of sorrow eventually grows into anxiety and depression.

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Depression: Information for Patients and Families

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Mental illness awareness is going strong these days thanks to the effort of agencies advocating a better understanding of these disorders. Moreover, people through the aid of technology can easily access knowledge, thoughts, and ideas regarding the subject matter. For instance, with depression, there is countless news of suicides due to depression. Another is the admittance of celebrities and ordinary individuals through social media that they are undergoing depression. Oftentimes, admittance of such disorder is countered by endless words of encouragement, support and unspoken question of whys. There is no correct and exact answer for the “why” of depression. Experts claim that it is the myriad of factors: coping mechanism, life experiences, genetics, neurotransmitters, support system, etc. Depression has no prejudice which simply means it is seen in all types or classes of people. Even the rich and famous is not exempted from the illness.

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A Quick Look On Depression

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Are you feeling down and unmotivated to do activities that you once enjoyed? Do seek solace in sleep? Do you find yourself down and sad without apparent reason? Do you have extreme feelings of hopelessness and unworthiness? Do you neglect your health and self-care routines? If you have experienced these, then it might be best to seek professional help. These symptoms are common in depression but may also be caused by other pathologic disorder.

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Why Caregivers Are Prone To Depression

 

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In the society, the nurturers or the natural caregivers is not considered as a coveted job as compared to high paying jobs or technology savvy positions. It takes an inherent characteristic to put the welfare of others above one’s self unselfishly. Some caregivers have part-time jobs and at the same time spend the time to assist their loved ones.

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